Are you one of those men who think that looks are the deciding factor when a women chooses a male that she wants to enter a sexual relationship with?  If so, try doing this, because unlike me, you will be shocked at what you see…

Yesterday when I was at work (I work in a men’s clothing store), the first 3 sets of customers that came into the store were couples.  Saturday’s are busy days in town in general, so I decided to put my knowledge of social skills and seduction techniques to good use and monitor all the couples that came in.  I was looking at how they looked together, how the guy was treating his girl and how she was responding.  Boy, I saw every type of couple.

We had the arguing couple.  They were straight up taking their domestic out in public, screaming and shouting in the store, an onlooking manikan felt the brunt when he was nearly knocked over.  After asking them to leave the store, they continued in the street outside.

We had the cute couple.  Or, the couple that makes you sick.  Holding eye contact the entire time, nearly walking into stuff, kissing, eskimo kissing, cuddling.  Like something out of a movie.  I didn’t even think this type of couple existed, but they did and they were in my store acting luvvy duvvy.

We had the jerk and his bitch couple.  This was a guy who was a straight ass idiot, telling his girl to “shut up” whilst he was talking.  He was dragging her around the store, saying how she’d look like a man wearing this etc.  It was negging, but her self-esteem was so low she just took it.

We had the girl and her loser date couple.  This was gut-wrenching to watch.  The girl looked totally pissed off and the guy was shy, head towards the ground, awful body language.  You could tell it was a relationship going nowhere fast after their obvious first date.

Finally, we had the alpha and his girl.  The couple who looked like they were having the most fun together.  You knew he was guaranteed to be getting laid that night.

One thing I noticed the most, was that all the alpha couples who entered the store, were average looking guys.  No better looking than myself, yet the girl’s were absolutely stunning.  A fellow colleague even said to me “how the hell has he pulled that!”  Yet we had a couple come in, they were average, nothing really bad or good about them, nothing that categorized them.  Just a guy and a girl out together.  The guy, in a non-homo way was very good looking.  He obviously worked out and his skin complexion was spot on.  Yet his girl, was just an average betty.  Nothing you’d take a second look at, but not something you’d have to hit up your obtician due to sudden blindness.

Game is all that matters people.  Start observing couples and you will start seeing this.  The guys with game have hot girls, the guys who don’t have game don’t.

For those of you who don’t already know, I’m a huge advocate for honesty.

Not because I’m trying to do the right thing or have people view me as a good person, but rather because I’ve found out through life experiences that in the long run (and sometimes the short term too) being honest more often than not lead to a positive outcome, for me. So I guess you can call me a selfishly-honest person. Oh well, you can call it how you see it, but regardless of opinions; the facts remain the same.

For instance, take this scenario into account:

Let’s say you’re in bed getting hot and heavy with a chick, but no matter what you say or do you just can’t convince her to try something new that she’s never done before. Of course in this situation the proper thing (and only thing unless you’re a borderline-rapist) is to just give up after a few attempts and take what you can get… some normal pussy without the frills you wanted. Now here is where being honest can work in your favor, not immediately, but eventually for those with patience. Most guys in this situation would tell the woman that the sex was good, just because it’s customary to say that it was good even if it wasn’t. However, since you wanted something that she wouldn’t do, it obviously was not totally satisfying for you. Tell her that.

When you tell her that her performance was a bit below par, she’ll get the hint that you must think she’s not a good lover because she isn’t as experimental and fun as you are. Either consciously or subconsciously this will eat away at her, and the next time you sleep with her she’ll be much more receptive to your freaky advances, and may even just go for it herself before you even ask for it. This is happen because she will have a strong feeling of needing to redeem herself, and prove that she is a good lover.

The above explanation was just a simple example of the power that honesty can have, and it works similarly in just about every other facet of life as well. For example, for those of you who have a job which you are always on time for, perform exceptionally well at, and believe you should be paid more money for your hard work… go into work tomorrow and tell your boss that you feel like you deserve a raise because you are such an exceptional employee. Be completely honest about it, and watch what happens.

You’ll get a raise, maybe not a huge one, but a raise nonetheless. Of course this only works if you are being totally honest, because if you really aren’t a hard worker then you and your boss will both know it, and your attempt will blow up in your face.

Now that I’ve explained a bit about the profound effect that being honest can have on your life, why not give it a shot? For the next week or so, try to be honest about as many things as possible, even the little, insignificant things that you typically lie about without even realizing that you are lying. Even be honest about the things that you know may slightly hurt someone’s feelings, because you will know that in the long run you are doing them a favor by giving them an honest opinion so they can improve on the issue and stop it from happening again in the future.

If everyone on earth were 100% honest about everything, we’d be living in a much better place, but I know that will never happen, ever.

Regardless, just because you can’t change the world doesn’t mean you can’t change yourself, and as a result the way that the world treats you.

I can’t stress this enough: be positive.

Enjoy every aspect of life and see the good in every situation.  In today’s world we stress over and get wrapped up in problems and issues that aren’t of significant importance to the big picture.

While I occassionally get stressed or overwhelmed like everyone else, it is necessary to realize that you are losing control emotionally and you need to bring things back into perspective.

Sure you have a big project due and you have to e-mail John and you need to call Mary and a million other things, but take a deep breath and realize it will all work out just fine.  You will get done whatever you can, you will do your best, and the rest lies in fate.

Take comfort in the fact that everything will work out great and then take pleasure in the moment and in life.   Think about what is great and put a smile on your face.

Everything seems easy when you maintain this mentality.

Taking over the world?  No problem.  Just watch me with this mentality.

Lately I’ve been getting more “outdoorsy”. The daily stress and chore of life can beat you down and train you into a state of permanent apathy or agitation. But there’s something inspiring and therapeutic about having that great expanse of open air above and around you. The naturality of it all can really swing you back to the center of your being.

So get out of the house, the car, or the workplace, and just go wherever your feet may take you. You weren’t designed to be boxed in.

Following my own advice, I recently found a trail that I like walking on. It’s very earthy. Lots of dirt and rocks, and endless varieties of vegetation.

Yesterday I saw an orange cat in the area. He spotted me and darted off. I kept walking and came to a clearing, where I saw two more cats. This time it was a mother, with white and brown fur, with her similarly-coated kitten. The kitten was nursing and seemed oblivious to me standing there, just a few feet away. The mother stared steadfastily into my eyes, almost pleadingly.

It was obvious she was hungry, and probably thirsty too. Having to nurse probably takes alot of nourishment. But I didn’t have anything with me. Oh well. I had more exploring to do. So I said “goodbye” to the staring momcat and her kitten, and I went on my way.

That was yesterday. Today I walked up the same trail, this time, looking really closely at the earth beneath my feet.

Have you ever really looked closely at things? There are worlds within worlds. I found a trail of ants and peered at them as they busily went about their work, oblivious to the looming giant that was me staring down at them. One ant, in particular, was struggling to carry a rock.. about the size of a grain of sand. To the ant, it was like a massive boulder.

How big are the burdens that you carry? Are they really as large as you think they are?

Life is full of wisdom when you look at things from a new perspective.

It was in this “zoomed in” mode of looking that I came up to the clearing. I looked over, hoping to see the momcat. But instead all I saw was her kitten. It was dead. Lying belly up, with flies around the open mouth.

What had happened? I could think of two possibilities..

1) The mother abandoned the kitten because she couldn’t take care of it

2) The orange male cat that was in the area had killed it, probably after fighting with the mother

Whatever had happened, it made me realize something: You cannot expect things to take care of themselves.

Applying this to attraction and seduction, you have to make things happen. If there’s a girl you want to talk to, don’t wait for her to give you a signal, because it may never come. Just talk to her. If you’re talking to a girl and you want to get her phone number, don’t wait for her to offer her phone number. You make it happen.

Just like the unfortunate kitten in the clearing, there is a “Murphy’s Law” of sorts: “whatever can go wrong, WILL go wrong.” I don’t completely agree with that statement, but I think there is some semblance of truth in it.

I would more accurately say, “things won’t take care of themselves.”

I had an opportunity to save the momcat and her kitten. But I didn’t act on it. How many times have you had the opportunity to do something, but you didn’t take any action because you didn’t think it was necessary? Or worse, you didn’t act because you were afraid of what might happen?

How many girls have you liked but you were too scared to tell them how you felt? How many of them secretly liked you back, but now you’ll never know?

How many times have you second-guessed yourself, instead of expressing yourself authentically?

Our lives are a culmination of decisions. We are always making choices, what to do now, where to go, what to eat, who to see. Many choices will lead to a different outcome.

But there is one choice that will always lead to the same outcome: if you do nothing, nothing is what you will get.

Think of the kitten as a metaphor for Possibility and Potential. With girls. With yourself. With life. Just because it’s there, alive and well, doesn’t mean it’s going to stay that way. You need to make things happen, to take things into your own hands. Opportunities can wither away and die before you know it.

It’s better to take action and make something happen, even at the risk of failure, than to walk around thinking back on “what could have been”.

To often I see guys on the forums talking about flirting with really innocent or prude girls and they just want to “hit it and quit it”.

Ignoring the moral side of doing this, I will first explain why this is a disadvantage for yourself.

First of all, you’d be spending huge amounts of time to get an innocent girl into bed and due to her lack of experience, it will probably be a sucky lay aswell.

Second, the aftermath is the worst part; once she has “given” herself to you, she will cling to you like glue which will annoy the shit out of you if you don’t like her as much as she likes you and other girls will think you’re already taken and will back off when they see her wrapped around you 24/7.

And here comes the worst part. Now she suddenly found out that you’re not at all a serious guy looking for a relationship and she just found clear evidence of you dating other women and her attitude towards you will switch from obsession to complete hostility. She’ll spread rumors about you, tell other women to stay away from you, tell are your current dates what a dick you are etc. In short, a shit load of drama that you’ll have to deal with that makes you think “was it worth it?”

Also besides all these reason that will mess you up you have to keep in mind that her situation is probably even worse; dealing with a mixture of extreme attraction and hate towards you, not trusting men easily anymore and even turning into a lesbo (make a joke ).

“So VoodooChild, how do I deal with this then?”

The best way to deal with is to prevent it. Let your targets know upfront (direct or indirect) that you are not the most serious guy around and that your just looking for a good time. Then it’s pretty much up to them to decide if they want to continue dating you or not. If they agree and still sleep with you nobody can later say you “used her” or “tricked her” because she knew damn well she was about to sleep with a player . If they don’t agree, respect their decision and leave it at that… Put them in the friendzone and see if you can still use them for networking etc. Besides, I’ve often found that these girls will still be so attracted to you and your raw display of sexuality that eventually they’ll come back anyways after having given it some thought and be like “Ok I’m up for this.”

You’d be surprised how positive women will react if you just let them know upfront (btw I don’t mean in the first approach lol, more like, after having made out with them and one or two dates later) .

So guys, don’t be a dick, be a man.

VoodooChild.

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