PP Guru Joined: 23 Jan 2010Location: New ZealandReputation: 684 votes: 16Posts: 808 Posts per day: 3.58
One year ago from now was about the time when I decided to get 'out there,' and meet some girls. Prior to this time, I didn't have a social life at all. All of my days would be spent sitting in front of the computer killing monsters in RuneScape and eating junk food. But now it was time to get somewhere.
December of '08 I went out with a guy friend of mine (One of few) to a derby course. My friend is a bit of a player himself although not our kind of player, he gets girls by pretending and lying about himself and gossiping about other people but that's irrelevant.
That night was the night when I met my first girl-friend. I'd never known a girl before and to me, her along with the social nighttime atmosphere made me fall in love. How romantic... Everything about her just made me crazy. She smiled and hugged me and looked good and I could talk to her satisfactorily. And I CHASED HER.
Needless to say, players, I FAILED.
Day in and day out, every time I went socializing my goal was to see this girl that I met at the racecourse. And every time I saw her I went straight for her and it always made me feel good. Oh how I longed for her. I'd give her compliments and buy her food and take her out to some cool places sometimes and cheer her up when she was down, and I looked good, too!
I always got jealous when she confided her crushes in me. Which to my frustration, was never me at any point. All of these guys that she liked just seemed to me like 'assholes' and bad-boys that didn't know how to treat a girl right. After all, I catered to her every whim and was a great friend. Why wouldn't she want me?
I look back on those days and cringe now. Shortly after my dragging and painful hunt for this girl I gave up when I got rejected. Back to square one.
One night I was browsing the Yahoo Answers forums on the singles and dating section pretending like I knew a thing about girls and dating, when I came across an anonymous hero that linked me to becomeaplayer.com
That link was the beginning of my journey. Tons and tons of articles were just sitting there, calling for me to read them so that I could find out the secret about these girls and what makes them tick. Just after the first few articles I felt slightly enlightened, but nothing quite compared to the link that I clicked that took me to the download page of the crash course.
I was kinda skeptical. I mean, this could just be another site that tricks you into downloading a virus just like all those other sites I'd seen that advertised bullshit like "the secret method for weight loss; lose 40lbs in 4 weeks without diet or exercise!"
The Paragon Project, aye? A quick easy fix to my girl problem and the key to a girls mind. It couldn't exist. Surely this is a load of crap.
I downloaded it.
I read it in 2 days.
Oh god.
Every single word that I read busted down the totally innocent and misguided views that I had about girls and built up a new understanding of what goes on inside a girl's head and how to strategise what I do around it. My eyes were so open. Everything that I wasn't supposed to have done; I was doing. Everything that I was supposed to be doing; I wasn't. I was the complete opposite of a player but the crash course set me straight and I cut out all of the sucking up and the stupid clown jokes and the desperateness out of my personality and replaced it with full on confidence. No longer did I laugh at people's stupid jokes; only when jokes are funny did I laugh, I never let anyone shoot me down or put me below them, I didn't tag along like a loser or act like a clown. I was a new man and I was the man.
A couple of months after slowly adopting some of the basic principles I learned in the book I still didn't have any girls chasing me. Then again I was pulling out all of this on all these girls that I'd already been friendzoned by prior. Around 3 months after discovering the crash course things started happening.
I was walking down the road with one of my friends one day when all of a sudden he let me in on a little secret. His ex girlfriend had a crush on me. Wow. I'd never ever had a single girl crush on me ever before. She was my first. Might be a fluke? Who knows. I didn't have any interest in the girl and she never got to know that I knew the secret.
A few days later a girl I'd met at a social group for scouting developed a crush on me after I was talking to her for a while one night while we were having a bonfire in a paddock. Guess I just said the right things.
A few more days later and I was walking through town and I met a girl who I'd never seen before and talked to her for a couple of minuted before leaving as I was only passing though. She asked someone for my number once I'd left and she txt me the same night telling me that she liked me.
Sorry, no, again.
I just didn't like any of these girls.
Another few days later I met up with a girl I knew over txt (I txt-sarged her.) She invited me out to the cinema one night to meet me but I was getting pissed that night with some other friends so I couldn't stay. But I did surprise her by turning up to the movies before it started but I couldn't stay. I talked to her for 10 minutes before she went into the cinema and I left her reeling. She fell for me hard. I continued to meet up with this girl; unsure if I was interested or not in her. She was a really cool girl. She wasn't model material but that's not what I was looking for at the time.
A few days after we met for the first time (still txting each other like mad) we sneaked out of out houses (I was 16 and her 15 at the time) and brought along a friend each. We got pissed on the river reserve. Such a fun night. She fell for me even more.
Another few nights later she sneaked out again into my garage and we watched a movie and talked for half an hour afterwards.
Sitting beside me in my bed, we slouched down under the covers and I asked her how much she liked me.
She said lots.
There we both had our first kisses.
I couldn't believe it.
Adopting the general idea behind the crash course had just got me 4 girls chasing me in less than 2 weeks and my first kiss a week later. That's up from absolutely no girl interaction ever before. Really, I couldn't have done any of this without the crash course.
Me and that girl have been dating over 9 months now. I didn't intend for it to be a LTR, but I didn't want to leave her. I'd found what I'd been looking for; a girlfriend. And I had the best one I could have hoped for. So happy and so grateful to the guys here at this site.
I know it's a late thank you, probably overdue by a year, but nevertheless I'm saying it now and have also bought The New Breed books, if not for personal gain, just as a thank you payment, as a small part of what I know I owe you for what you've given me.
I'll begin/keep posting on the forums as I do have some stuff to share with all of you, and I'm especially interested in diet and fitness so can give people advice on how to fit up and look good for the most powerful confidence booster ever; Looking sexy! Not an expert but will share what I know.
I still owe The Inner Circle a truck load. But for now, thanks tons!
-ElmoNZ.
(I spent almost an hour writing this up then I accidentally closed it. Then I said fuck it and went out to see my gf So this is the second version, not quite as good as the original, but I'm sure you'll be seeing more inspirational posts from me in the future.)
PP Guru Joined: 01 Nov 2009Reputation: 1608.6 votes: 7Posts: 563 Posts per day: 1.82
Glad to here it! I hope you and her are happy! TNB I also heard is a good book but I'll buy it next year when I get in college, I have no credit card and don't want to let my parents know that I may be a PUA, but all in all, good job dude.
PP Guru Joined: 16 Jan 2010Location: KCMOReputation: 7.2Posts: 597 Posts per day: 2.56
Haha thats kind of like my story i tyed in how to be a player on google after a lonley afternoon sitting at home. My brother had gone out with his friends and i was just pissed off at my self cuz i knew i could do better that this boring life that i had. So one thing led to another and about 2 months ago i started reading the CC. Im still learning tho
PP Student Joined: 06 Jan 2010Reputation: 1.9Posts: 29 Posts per day: 0.12
Haha that's also relates to my past.
Used to get rejected all the time I didn't even know the basic principles of seduction.
Anyways good luck to you guys.
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TIC Prospect Joined: 21 Dec 2007Location: London EnglandReputation: 5592.1 votes: 14Posts: 957 Posts per day: 0.97
okay guys its great to hear youre success that makes it all worthwhile the tic and st are constantly working on more material to help guys like yourselves aqnd when we see success stories and know we have been able to help people it is all worth it, so good to know you have been successful keep visiting the forums and you will keep improving we are all here to help congratulations to you all
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So this is the second version, not quite as good as the original, but I'm sure you'll be seeing more inspirational posts from me in the future.)
