PP Novice Joined: 29 Jun 2008Reputation: 515.5 votes: 4Posts: 150 Posts per day: 0.19
I am in a huge funk right now. I just cant get myself into the fun guy mode. Depression is eating me alive. Everytime I think about talking to a girl nothing comes to mind. If I do have something to say I cant say it in the right tone. I feel like a social retard sometimes. I have a good job, and a good car but I dont have the personality I need. I dont like sports, im not an outdoorsman, im not into cars, i dont fight, Im horrable at talking to people. The only thing I have going for me is my job and a car. Thats it. I try to get interested in other things but I just cant. I think the reason I cant talk to people is because I dont feel emotions. I talk the best when Im speaking from the heart. I just cant throw a conversation together just like that. When Im at work and the other guys start talking about there girlfriends and sex and shit like that I clam up. I just feel so uncomfortable sometimes. I think at first sight I appear as a kool guy, but I come off as boring most the time. I just wanna get excited about life but with all these self doubts its very difficult. Are there any self help mp3s I can download or does self hypnosis work? I need to do something before I fuckin crack.
PP Novice Joined: 05 Feb 2010Reputation: 294.8 votes: 2Posts: 173 Posts per day: 0.81
your main problem is that u want to be someone ur not,do things u like not things other people like,dont think too much on what ur going to say or what if im boring,etc just have fun dont try to make other people like you just like yourself
PP Novice Joined: 09 Oct 2009Location: OhioReputation: 1020.5 votes: 9Posts: 103 Posts per day: 0.31
Holy shit dude, sounds pretty bad...pull yourself together, it ain’t going to be easy man, I’ll tell you that. But it's either you do what you need to do in order to get to where you're going or you don't deserve to be there. If you have nothing else to do with your time because of this crippling fear then start working on yourself...JUST work on yourself, I mean you said you have no other interest’s right? You seem to be interested in getting the hell out of the circumstance you're in so do that.
Do it until you can't anymore, work on yourself in the privacy of your own home until something inside you FORCES you to go out and do something a bit more ballsy than you're doing now...trust me, just do affirmations, visualization, start working out, reading self-help books, thinking about what your life purpose could possibly be, start writing out some goals, and even...yeah do some hypnosis or meditation, whatever promises you change right now...do that because you have nothing to lose. Trust me, just work on yourself at home until you can start making conversation with cashiers and then strangers, then work on being comfortable around them.
There is nothing wrong with your head because I have been where you’re at quite a few times in my life, it happens to the best of us and I can tell you’re bright by your post and can figure this out. Being boring happens when we start having a really negative outlook on life (that can be changed), we start losing confidence and then every social situation starts to seem like some big huge task that wears us out. I hope what I wrote here helps…g’luck man
Many a false step was made by standing still
~ Fortune Cookie
TIC Prospect Joined: 21 Dec 2007Location: London EnglandReputation: 5592.1 votes: 14Posts: 957 Posts per day: 0.97
read some of the inner game articles you have zero self confidence and no beleif in yourself, you said you have a car, and a job, so you have money. go out and redo your image check the style forums, go get yourself some clothes you feel good in, and really work at the inner game if you dont have the cc, get it, if you do read perfection inside, and perfection outside inside out till you understand it this will help you take those steps towards becoming the person you want to be,
you cant try to be someone/something you are not, but you have to and need to make changes to improve.
PP Novice Joined: 29 Jun 2008Reputation: 515.5 votes: 4Posts: 150 Posts per day: 0.19
Wow it's been alomost 2 years since I wrote this, and it takes that long to get any responces? HaHa. Actually Im doing alot better now with my innergame. I am taking medication but it seems to be working really well. My biggest problem was I beat myself up way too much and tried to be someone Im not. Now I've learned to just go with the flow and don't try top force any feelings. I've been doing alot better socially, and everytime I go out to a bar now Im always networking more than any of my friends. Im approaching women now with no hesitation, of corse the ones that I really get along with are in realtionships of lesbians haha, but I've been having a blast doing it. and the funny thing is the women with boyfriends I get along great with them too. Im starting to come out of my shell and just not give a fuck. I've realized one thing. You can't please everybody, if your completely 100% youself people are either gonna love you or hate you and fuck the ones that don't like you because their probly not enjoying life as much as you so they become jelouse and try and put you down. Thanks for the advise guys, and Im gonna keep on truckin.
PP Guru Joined: 09 Apr 2008Location: Vancouver B.C.Reputation: 228.3 votes: 13Posts: 519 Posts per day: 0.59
magilla you should write a post describing the steps you took to be the man you are today. the contrast between that first post and who you are now is incredible!
PP Novice Joined: 29 Jun 2008Reputation: 515.5 votes: 4Posts: 150 Posts per day: 0.19
Hey Chris, well first off, Im taking medication now. I didnt wan't to turn to drugs to make me a better person but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. My mother went thru alot of depression herself and I was told by my doctor that it is heretitary, my grandmother went thru it to. I just got so sick and tired of being depressed and going thru anxiety that I decided to get help since I could afford it. I've tried talking to shrinks and that didnt work. The medication is tho, it just like evened me out and made me to be able to think rationally instead of destructively. Now dont get me wrong I still get upset from time to time but thats usually caused from boredome or a bad night, but now I can get over it and not blame my self. I've realized alot of people are going thru the same thing I am and nobodies perfect. You name one person without any insecurities, your not gonna find one. My thought process now is it is what it is. When I go out now, I dont care whether people like me or not, Im not trying to impress nobody but my self, and Im always making an effort now. sure I still have alot to learn cuz Im still not getting laid, but at least Im getting laughs, new friends, and just plain old having fun. I've been to a couple of parties recently and people either loved me or they didnt. But noone felt sorry for me. I just try to be goofy and say whats on my mind and be as positive as I posibly can. It's not that hard once you get over the fear of rejection. Like the other day I went to a bar, got a little liquid encouragement and just started approaching saying the first thing that popped into my head without caring about the outcome. I heard some guy yell at the top of his lungs YEAAAAH, then I went up to the group and screamed the same thing and said, I have no Idea what were yeahing about but fuck it felt fun to do and his whole crew just laughed there asses off. I dont know what else to say besides, accept yourself for who you are, appreciate the things you already have cause believe me it could be alot worse, and JUST BE YOU. Dont try and be somebody else, just be you and thats it.
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